The handbag analogy

I'm really tired because I ran a couple miles on an empty stomach at 6:30 AM and this may not be coherent, but try to stay with me on this one.

The perfect handbag:an outfit::The perfect man:a woman

Does that make sense? I don't speak from experience as I don't wear "outfits" per se, but I would assume this is how it would work for other people.

Let me explain this. There's nothing like finding the perfect handbag to go with your outfit. The perfect handbag does many things; it complements without overpowering, it accentuates the positives, it helps one feel confident... But it's fuckin impossible to find!

You can approach the search for the perfect handbag with expectations that may not result in the most desireable match, thus leaving you with possibly a really nice bag, but not one that suits the outfit. Perhaps you find a great bag, but it's not on sale leaving you to ponder the implications of poor timing. Maybe countdown to the event is drawing too near and you have to scramble for any bag that will remotely work, and so you find youself settling. Along the line somewhere, maybe you realize your last 15 purchases were all the same style just different colors...

This is the same way relationships work. Sometimes we date people who don't suit us. Sometimes the timing is off. Sometimes we settle. Sometimes we repeat a pattern.

Sometimes, if you're patient enough, the right handbag ends up on clearance at some obscure store just when you were about to give up all hope of looking absolutely fabulous.